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Sunday, October 18, 2015

Another lesbian story? Why Amanda Ebeye loves Sylvia Ukaatu so much

Its no longer a strange   happening to have persons   of the same sex dating each other as man and woman. At least, we have heard so many confessions out of the movie industry of lesbianism and homosexualism.
So, when Amanda Ebeye, a Nollywood actress and now a producer reeled out her greetings to Sylvia Ukaatu, another Nollywood actress on her birthday, it got tongues wagging. The birthday message was so emotion-laden that many began to question what may be the big deal between the two movie stars
Sylvia Ukaatu 





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            Amanda Ebeye




















But as it turns out; there is nothing extraordinary between the two girls. If any, it was just a fondness one person feels towards the other, for some extraordinary experiences shared. Amanda, who produced her first film recently, Agwonma, took time out to explain why Sylvia is very special to her.
“Let me tell you something about Sylvia Ukaatu. When I was filming in Ghana I caught chicken pox. Everyone started avoiding me and of course, I couldn’t blame anyone . But Sylvia stayed with me all through. She took care of me and rubbed calamine lotion on my body. When I was hot, instead of allowing me to scratch she would fan me. She stayed with me till I got better. And you know the truth? She never had it before and miraculously she didn’t catch it after. Happy birthday dear. God bless you forever” she wrote on her Facebook page.
Amanda has just tried her hands at movie production and she has in the market as Easter gift, her movie Agwonma featuring veteran movie actor Ejike Asiegbu, Francis Duru, Prince Eke, Joy Helen and others.

Lesbianism thrives in prison – Ex-inmate

•Abandoned by family, friends and church, ex-inmate tells her prison story
Although, she has since regained her freedom, after spending one year behind bars, it will, perhaps, take Miss Jennifer Ngozi Mberekpe a long time to overcome the traumatic experience she had while in prison.
In fact, the more she tries to erase the unthinkable picture from her mind, the more she’s haunted by its memory. She can never look towards the unforgetable prison images without a ‘shudder and a sigh.’


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 terrifying practice of ‘warm bath’ by the prison mother, and the unholy practices that become the order of the day in the cell, the prison gate for Miss Mberekpe   presents a scary picture of the proverbial “Gate of hell, or better still,   a thin line between death and life.”
“The first day I entered the prison, the authorities there were contemplating on which of the cells they would put me. At last, they took me to a particular cell where they handed me over to a cellmate called my mother who gave me a “warm bath” as a way of welcoming me to the cell, and later she took me through the prison routine,” she began.
Miss. Mberekpe was recently freed from the Kirikiri Prison, Apapa. She had been behind bars since last year, following a case of fraud preferred against her. But for divine intervention, she was freed some 12 days after the Founder and General Overseer of Word and Spirit Assembly Church, Satellite Town, Pastor. Chris   Ekeh visited the Kirirkiri Prison on the 17th  of July, 2015, to celebrate his 40th  birthday with the inmates. Her case was struck out by the trial judge.
In a recent encounter with  Saturday Vanguard, Miss Mberekpe, who hails from Imo State, told us what it was like to spend a year of her life in the prison, living at the mercy of the inedible food, solitary lifestyle and the scratchy prison uniforms. Describing her release as a “divine intervention’ Mberekpe said, the prison is not a place anyone can wish for his or her enemies.
While the days, Mberekpe spent behind bars were terrible, she believes that the worst of these moments was when she was first transported from the court to the Kirikiri prison.
According to her,   “When   they took me to the prison, I thought it was   the end of the road for me.   I left everything in the hands of God. I prepared my mind to accept the worst   while in prison. I was not scared, but it is not an experience one would wish his or her enemies. It is only those inmates who have no focus that would want to go back there.”
While I was in prison, she continued, “ I   never had any good news. It was one sad story or the other. But what kept me going was the fact that I believed I would overcome my travails someday. I was never discouraged.”
However, one thing that gave Miss Mberekpe sleepless nights throughout her one year behind bars was a situation where her   family, friends and church members abandoned her to her fate. She said, “ Even when I called my relations, friends and church members nobody came to my rescue. But despite my predicaments, I still had peace within me and I strongly believed that someday, I would regain my freedom.”
Miss Mberekpe opened a can of warms, revealing that lesbianism, among other ugly acts, thrives in prison. “ I discovered some unholy practices such as lesbianism thriving in prison. But I did not do it because from the moment I was ushered into the place, my cell mates knew I was a  Christian and did not indulge in such unholy practice,” she revealed.
She however,  acknowledged the efforts made by the prison authorities to curb the bestial act.   “ All thanks to the former Deputy Controller of Prisons,DCP, who dealt with the evil. She stood up against it and ensured that lesbianism was drastically reduced in the prison,” she said.
Miss Mberekpe’s journey to the Kirikiri prison, began in 2014, when she was linked with N12.5 million deal, which was invested in her former company by their clients. Then she was working with a Lagos- based assets management company which was  into stock, shares and private placements. The company, according to her, collects the funds from individuals, companies or associations and invest them into unknown products.
According to her story, in 2014, a large sum of N12.5 million was invested in a business, but following the crisis in the stock exchange market then, the fund was diverted on the instruction of their client.   It so happened that one   of the investors, whose share was N1 million   was not satisfied with the development, as he decided to take a legal action against her because she was the person that brought him into the business.
“It was a business transaction that took me to the prison. It wasn’t as if I embezzled the funds or it was lost due to bad business. But the client involved used his discretion to divert the funds which was supposed to be used to execute the business,” she recounted.
Miss Mberekpe, said, the turning point in her life as an inmate was the day she encountered Pastor Chris Ekeh, when he visited the Kirikiri prison to celebrate his 40th birthday with the inmates.
Pastor Chris
Pastor Chris Ekeh (right) presenting a cheque to Miss Mberekpe
According to her, she was moved by the man’s message. “While he was preaching to us, the man of God said, ‘though they may have forsaken you, your family members, friends an even church members, there is one thing that will follow you. It is the goodness and mercy of The Lord.’
She said that his message might have looked ordinary to many but to her it meant a lot and she quickly grabbed the message and tried to live it. “ The man of God visited the prison on the 17th of July, and I regained my freedom on the 29th of July. All along, no lawyer has represented me in court, but the last time I appeared in court, after Pastor Chris’s visit to the prison, a lawyer surfaced in court on my behalf, courtesy of my father’s friend who paid him to seek my release in court.”
Interestingly, Pastor Ekeh  had promised to render financial assistance to any inmate that would be released after his visit to the prison. Recently, he fulfilled his promise when he handed over a cheque of N200,000 to Miss Mberekpe to enable her start a new life.

Wednesday, September 23, 2015

What is "DATING"

These are a few frequently asked questions about dating. If you have questions of your own or need more information, you can drop your questions on the comment icon below or contact us on the contact list of our main page our trained chancellors would get back to you b4 14hours.

What is dating?

“Dating” means different things to different people, particularly across generations. At Joswids blog, we define “dating” as two people in an intimate relationship. The relationship may be sexual, but it does not have to be. It may be serious or casual, straight or gay, committed or open, short-term or long-term. The important thing to remember is that dating abuse can occur within all kinds of intimate relationships.

So, are we dating?

Whether you call it “dating” or something else, both people should agree on a definition and the same ground rules for the relationship. Keep these questions in mind:
  • Do you have romantic feelings for this person?
  • Are you and the person you’re interested in both looking for a committed relationship?
  • Do you hang out or go on dates without a group of friends?
  • Is the status of your relationship something you’ve shared with others in person or online, like on Facebook?
  • Do both people in the relationship agree that it’s exclusive?

Does “hooking up” count?

Hooking up is a broad term, but generally it refers to casual encounters between two people who can be friends but don’t have to be. They may or may not be your only partner and can include sex.
Even if you are “hooking up,” your partner should not be disrespectful or controlling. You should be able to communicate your feelings without being afraid of negative consequences or abuse. Remember the rules for a healthy relationship apply to hook ups, too.

How old do I have to be to date?

There is no exact age when you can or cannot start dating. Many parents set an age according to their perspective, culture, views and beliefs. Consider talking to your parents, family and friends to see what their thoughts are. If you think that talking to your parents might be hard, start with your friends or other adults you trust. Ultimately, what matters is that you personally feel ready and confident to make this decision.

But what if I’m not dating?

There are other types of relationships that might not be considered dating that are just as real and that we can help you with here. Maybe you have a child with somebody but do not consider yourself to be in a dating relationship with that person. Having a child together could feel like more than just dating, or you might have chosen not to be together anymore; there is no one way that relationships must work.
Another possibility is that you and your partner are married. Of course marriage is different from dating in some ways, but you might be surprised at how similar they really are! What makes a dating relationship healthy or unhealthy usually applies to marriage as well.
At loveisrespect, we focus on dating but this site is relevant to everyone.

Is holding a grudge towards my partner unhealthy?

Yes, holding a grudge against your partner is unhealthy, not only for your relationship but also for you. Holding grudges for a long time can result in building up anger, distress, doubt and a lot of other negative feelings that can can make you unhappy and stressed. To maintain a healthy relationship, you need to be able to forgive your partner for their past mistakes. The other option is letting them go. Try to remember: being with a person you cannot forgive is not going to do either of you any good.

Is it unhealthy if I date someone my family doesn’t like?

Dating someone your family doesn’t like can be really hard. It may cause conflict that makes you feel like you can’t be honest or even near the people you love. Consider why your family doesn’t like your partner or why your partner doesn’t like them. Remember that isolation and no one liking your partner are warning signs of an abusive relationship.

We’re not “dating,” how can I be abused?

Abuse can affect all types of relationships, not just long-term or committed relationships. Even if your relationship is casual or you’ve only hooked up once, you can still experience abuse. If something makes you uncomfortable, scared or threatened, you could be experiencing the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship. Learn more about unhealthy relationships.

I’m a teen parent. Does that mean there’s a higher chance of me ending up in a violent relationship?

Sadly, yes. Pregnant and parenting teens are at a higher risk of experiencing physical abuse. Get the stats here. Feeling discouraged? We’re here for you. You can chat with one of our advocates at any time of the day just by clicking the chat button, text us by sending “loveis” (capitalization does not matter) to 22522 or call us at 1-866-331-9474. We are available 24 hours a day!

What if I don’t feel safe talking to someone about what’s going on?

It’s common for people to not feel comfortable talking about their relationships, especially if they’re unhealthy. This is a hard topic to discuss, but talking about it can help. Here at loveisrespect, we have trained peer advocates who are friendly, non-judgmental and available 24/7. So feel free to contact us anytime and know that we’ll keep our conversations completely confidential

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